"She says "Speak up", and then when I do, she says "No need to shout!"
Have you ever felt like making this remark?
If you have you ever been irritated into making this sort of remark about someone with hearing loss, it would probably help you to understand the problem.
The trouble here is that the person concerned has probably never analysed her own needs in order to communicate them meaningfully.
She probably doesn't mean, "Don't shout", but:
"Speak more clearly, slightly more loudly and don't be so aggressive".
If this is not understood by everyone concerned, tempers fray.
How to tackle the problem
The way forward is for you to read the page on speaking clearly and work through the other pages on in this section and the next one. Then you both need to work out how to explain your needs calmly and unemotionally.
The person doing the 'shouting' probably
does need to speak more loudly, but the chances are that they will also
need many of the other strategies on the page about
helping interaction with the hearing-impaired.
More common irritations with hearing-impaired people and what to do about them
She says "Speak up" and then, when I do, she says "No need to shout!"
He can always hear when he wants to. He just doesn't concentrate
She doesn't properly adjust, use, or persist with her hearing aid
He's got normal hearing in one ear which ought to be enough
She could always learn lip-reading!
He doesn't really count any more because he's so deaf
Disclaimer: The information on this site is for a lay audience and I cannot be responsible for errors or omissions. The views, strategies, advice and suggestions etc are based on my personal experience and are not necessarily appropriate for anyone else. They should, hopefully, stimulate individuals to develop their own strategies.